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What should I do?? Please help?
Okay, so I know a lot of people have probably asked questions like this already, but I’m just going to ask anyway. What do I do when my mother never listens to me? We’re in this really big fight right now, because i said something that I maybe shouldn’t have, but I still kinda felt like she deserved. But anyway, my ENTIRE life, she hardly ever listens to me. I’m the youngest of 7, and apparently the youngest is supposed to be the spoiled one, but I’m really not. And I’m not saying I want to be spoiled either. But anyway, if anything, it’s like I’m left out of everything. So like, my mom doesn’t listen to me 95 percent of the time, and then when I finally do get her a attention, she acts like she would rather be anywhere else then there talking to me. And I’ve told her how I feel and stuff, but it’s like she doesn’t give a sh**. She makes me feel like I’m the least favourite all the time. And then whenever I try to do something with her, she blows me off. Like, i’ll ask her if she wants to watch a movie with me, and she’ll blow me off 90 percent of the time. So anyway,our fight was, I asked her to watch something on the computer, and then like, 10-15 minutes later she finally comes downstairs, and she starts bit**ing at me about how she was cleaning the house all day, which doesn’t even make any sense about what that has to do with watching something. So she keeps acting like she doesn’t want to be there at all, and it’s not like I forced her to come down or anything, but I lost my temper and I was like, “k, screw off then, don’t watch it.” and i said that because I’m so sick of all her sh**, and i have absolutely no patience for her anymore. So then she gave me a look, and then she was like, “excuse me?” but I was still ticked off so i’m like, “just leave ok?” so then she did leave. but a little while later she came back in and she was like, u know what, i’m not going to let that go. then she told me i owed her an apology, or she was going to tell my dad and i wasn’t going to get my allowance. So I told her how sick i am of her blowing me off constantly, and that was why i told her to screw off. but she just left. and ow she isn’t talking to me. the only way she’ll talk is if i say something to her first, but she still ignores me half the time. and when she does answer me, she says it all sad and stuff even though she would have been just laughing a second ago. I know i probably hurt her, but I really don’t want to apologize to her because she has never once apologized to me for anything. i tell her every single day that her ignoring me really bugs me, but she just tries turning it around on me. and i got so angry one time, i figured, k, ur not going to listen to me, so i’m not going to listen to you. so i didn’t talk to her for a week. and she never even tried talking to me, or saying anything to make things better. i was the one who had to make the first step and everything, and she still never apologized or anything. she would just promise me that she would listen to me from then on, but the next day, she would be doing the exact same thing again. every time she ignores me it pi**es me off more and more, and it takes my patience for her way down. it’s getting to the point where she’s almost making me hate her. I know that sounds bad, but i can’t help it. I’ve told her how i felt before, but like i said, she doesn’t really care. and i can’t just ignore it, because it bugs me so much. she stresses me out, and she hurts me. not physically or anything, but just because she ignores me so much. and i can’t talk to my dad about it, because we don’t have the kind of relationship where we could sit down and talk about things, so i can’t go to him. I can’t stand her anymore, and i just want her to start being a decent mother and listen to me when i’m trying to talk to her. she has me so ticked off sometimes that i can hardly breathe. i feel like screaming and swearing at her, but i know that would obviously just make things worse. but i don’t know what to do about her not talking to me right now, or about her ignoring me and always blowing me off. And i’m 15 by the way, if that helps at all. What do i do? please help, i can’t take it anymore.
And sorry that was so long :/
Your mother sounds very immature. She is playing teenage mind games with you, her teenager, hoping that by ignoring you or fighting that it will get you to “change.” She is ignoring you so much because she sees that it works on you. It is a form of punishment and a way to make you “sorry”, and there is no way for you to argue with her about it because she hasn’t said anything! She is obviously to everyone the victim! My advice, even tho you are only 15 and have a right to be immature because you are not grown, I think you should try to be the grown up here. If not for any reason but to learn to be okay when she does this. My mom and i used to fight constantly and the best way we found to communicate was with letters. Also that way there is no misunderstandings. Seek counseling and don’t try to make things right with her when she is in this mood, apologize for only your part and let her be the one to come around. She will eventually see that ignoring you has stopped affecting you and will either look for a new outlet for her anger like yelling or try to work on your relationship.
What should I do about my boyfriend’s son? I dread weekend visits and financial burdens?
My boyfriend has a 9 year old son and I have a 10 year old daughter. The kids get along well for the most part except when they argue a couple times a day about dumb kid stuff which is normal. My real problem is that my boyfriend’s son is extremely selfish and greedy, I can’t stand it anymore. I’ve tried talking to my boyfriend about it but he really doesn’t do anything. When his son comes to my house for some reason he feels entitled to do things that I don’t even allow my daughter to do. Such as use my work computer without permission to play games. Go into the fridge to help himself to things even if he’s not hungry or just ate. Turn on the TV and hide the remote and even take it to the bathroom with him so no one can touch it. My boyfriend thinks some of these things are either funny or not a big deal. I don’t like it! He climbs all over my couches and throws my stuff on the ground. When I tell him not to do something my boyfriend takes offense like I’m being strict. I’m not strict I just expect you to respect my house just like my own kid does.
I can’t stand that he’s very selfish too. Even if he already ate he’ll ask for more food when he’s full. He’s not overweight, just greedy. For instance, I’ll make dinner and just because someone will want some salad, he’ll notice and take most for himself. If someone else wants salad he’ll want more again. To the point where he wont even touch the rest of the food *just* because someone is reaching for it. This bugs the hell out of me, he does it in a way that if very subtle. So if I were to say something, then I look like the bad guy. But it’s with everything. I spend a lot of money on groceries just because he comes to my house and wants to eat everything. If he’s super full, he’ll still want more just because someone else is hungry. It’s expensive! He’s also very pushy. I normally don’t like to cook on the weekends too much, but I still do because I know the family enjoys it. Last week, we had come back from somewhere very late and he said he was hungry. I told him to get something out of the freezer because it was too late for me to cook. He gave me this look of utter disbelief then turned to look at my boyfriend. His expression was that of “Is she serious?” This ticked me off! I’m not a freaking maid for this kid, not even my own kid gets the red carpet treatment.
Anyway, I don’t know what to do, I feel my own kid gets shafted all the time for his needs when he comes over. She doesn’t ever complain, she just goes with the flow. She’s growing up to be such a generous and thoughtful child because I taught her to be that way! She’d rather avoid confrontation but he takes advantage of her! She’s always letting him “be first” or he “changes the music” or he “chooses the TV show” or “he gets the bigger plate of food” I am damn sick of it! I can’t talk to my bf because he doesn’t understand or just laughs because he thinks it’s cute. His son is kind of short for his age so I think my bf sees him younger than he is. He’ll call him “da-da” and last week he was even carrying him around it disgusted me, he’s freakin 9 years old! And I can’t talk to the kid’s mom because she’s an ignorant woman who already tried to get into a fight with me before. I plan on being with this guy but I can’t stand how spoiled and greedy his son is, what can I do to make my life easier when he comes over to my place? My boyfriend sometimes brings like a carton of eggs or basic food staples, but of course I wind up cooking or buying more food to feed everyone. Should I ask him to bring groceries for the weekend? I don’t want to be petty, but to be quite honest it’s not just about the money. It’s the greedy part that bothers me and makes me not want to do anything for this kid. Help, what can I do?
Thanks for your insight “H” but you are dead wrong with everything you said in your judgemental statement. First off, I *do* have rules which he abides by, but then he comes back from his home a wreck all over again and it’s frustrating. Second, if my bf was using me why would he be in the process of buying me a new house to support me while I go back to school? Lastly, if I didnt respect myself I wouldnt say anything at all. Im not remotely close to being meek, but I cant discipline him cause he’s not my kid. Do I love someone with poor parenting skills? Yes. Do I lack self-worth because of that? Absolutely not.
I should have mentioned that we have been dating for about 2 1/2 years and he wasnt in a relationship with the kids mom for about 3 years prior to that.
Unless you and your bf are living together, you do not have to put up with this. I would just go visit my mother or otherwise be conveniently busy when he has his kid.
The food issue is easy to resolve. Stop serving family style. Bring everyone’s plate from the kitchen and put it in front of them. That way you are in control of how much this little glutton is consuming. It’s slightly more work for you, but puts you in the position of control. You should not be expected to foot the bill to feed this kid. If he’s spending the whole weekend at your house, figure out how much extra it’s costing you in food, and ask your bf to provide that much money to cover the expense.
Sit down with your bf when the kid isn’t there, and discuss discipline and following the rules. Make sure your bf knows what the rules are, and have him talk to Junior about his behavior. Put your computer away. If it’s too hard to move, unplug the mouse and keyboard, or monitor, and put them in your bedroom closet, or something. It’s drastic, but not as bad as a virus, or fouled up PC. If your bf doesn’t man up and be a parent, then I would let things in the bedroom get a little chilly. Tell him you can’t feel romantic when you are being so disrespected in your own home. Sounds low, but that technique has been known to produce near-miracles!
Lastly, for a new house and a chance to go back to school without working, I would put up with the devil’s spawn! In 9 years, the kid will be out of the house, either way. I’d just keep patiently reminding him he needs to discipline his child.
That’s the best I have. Good luck!
I don’t want to nag my bf but want him to value what I do?
My bf has stomach problems and hasn’t had his teeth cleaned the whole time I’ve known him. I gave him my doctor’s #’s but he never would call for appts. Finally I told him look, if we’re gonna get married someday and you think I would trust you to take care of me in my old age, nevermind our kids in the future, forget it! I put a lot of value on preventative healthcare- duh, get your teeth cleaned 2x a year so you don’t end up with a $$$$ root canal. He made appts and canceled 1 and won’t reschedule. I don’t want to mother or nag him because that’s what my mom’s done to my dad for 35 years and the man never says a word. He’s a total pu$$y now! Then she gets on his case for being silent! They’re ridiculous. My boyfriend’s family isn’t exactly more well adjusted than mine- they’re the kind of people that wouldn’t say s**t if they had a mouthful. My bf is not assertive or confrontational at all so if I harass him about this, he just laughs it off and does NOT respond! It really bugs me because I think this indicates he’s got a lot of growing up to do- and this is the guy who tried to pressure me into having kids 4 mos ago! He says his clock is ticking and then he shows me how childish he is, being afraid of the doctor and dentist. What a load of crap! I just don’t want to end up in a relationship like my parents in 20 years where I nag all the time and he says NOTHING. How do I get thru to this boy?
Sorry to be the one to tell you this but there is absolutely nothing you can say or do to get through to this boy. The fact is that he will only do something about this or anything else you don’t like about him when and IF it becomes important to him. He will not change his way of thinking until then and it still may not be what suits you. You may really care about this guy but if he is pressuring you to have children before you are ready, he seems to be mainly concerned with only himself and his wants. I quite agree that he seems way too immature but in many ways. I think you should try to find someone whose values already match with yours and then you will find more happiness in that relationship now and in the future between the two of you. We can want something better for others all we want, it isn’t a bad thing. But we have to be honest with ourselves as well and know that no one else will see things our way all the time and others will continue to do as they see fit to do in spite of our dis-pleasures. If this is something you can bring yourself to overlook, that is where this situation will work the best. If you can’t however, time for a change of bf’s honey.
Can you help me find out what kind of bug I found on my dog?
It was on her neck, biting into her skin like a tick. It was also next to 2 dog ticks. It’s head looks like a tick, but it’s body is 1/2″ long, white & skinny. Looking at it from above it has many white legs on the right side. Looking at it turned onto it’s back it has 4 tick looking legs on the other side. I have tried to get a pic to help but for some reason it is the only thing I cannot get a clear photo of! It is flat, but I don’t know if it was flat when it was alive or this is because it is dead. Please help!
It might just be a tick as well. There are different types. I know theirs 3 kinds here on my dogs that I have seen. There red like little crabs i guess you could say. And some are huge and gray. It’s probably just another type of tick!
What kind of bug is this?
-Not my photo but this asker never got a right answer.
It is not a spider or a tick or mite as it only has six legs.
I have the same kind in my house
They have little round (like a bead) dark bodies and look like ticks but only have six legs. Thanks.
Oh – so maybe it’s a baby tick?
So it looks quite like the DRAWING of a young blacklegged tick as sent by Steve M -
however it looks nothing like photos of blacklegged ticks – or any ticks really – the body is much ROUNDER (maybe even more than shows in that pic) – just like a little black (or dark brownred?) bead.
Its a manbearpig!
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